Creating the Experience

Coffee in general and coffee shops in particular believed to be closely linked with the ideas of the adult world and social relations. We usually go to coffee shops for a business meeting, or when hanging out meeting some friends or even new people. We drink coffee to help us keep alert, to make us warm, because of the health benefits that it gives and for a variety of reasons..

I’m not a coffee fan but when I started to be a Professional Nocturnal, I got a little bit hooked. Aside from all the benefits and the great taste I fell in-love with how it can bring people closer. I also came to believe that a cup of coffee shared with a friend is happiness tasted and time well spent.

Sharing some of my thoughts in building and sustaining relationships..things I’ve learned from people I have worked and working with, people I had coffee with…and had a relationship with..
There are three essential ingredients I’ve learned in stirring up relationships and that is trust, communication and effort. Here are some beans I have in mind:

A Relationship begins with ONE

It begins with one, one person making the choice to get involved. One person getting out of his/ her shell-from his/ her comfort zone. One person trying to reach out, trying to be part of something or helping out with the simplest thing possible. It begins with one person staying true to his/ her values.

How can we build relationships if we’re creating walls instead of bridges? Think of something not for what it once was but for what it can be or YOU can be.
Just be yourself. Nobody is in the contest of being you and remember to always be the best of who and what you possibly could be. Other people may not like you, who cares? There are people who loves you unconditionally.

Take time to LISTEN WELL

We are created with two ears and one mouth, we can say we are designed to listen more and talk less. Let them speak first or finish. Take time to communicate through listening not only to what one is talking about but on what one is trying to say (he/ she must be addressing something. Your time, an update, or just a friend in you). Take time to listen to what they don’t say, to look to what they don’t show. Some people are just a little shy to take the first move, to break the ice.. By being a listener, people will see us as someone they can depend on and therefore can be trusted.

Learn and Earn RESPECT

If a person can’t keep a promise, doesn’t respect you for who you are and with what you have that person doesn’t earn your trust. We are all different in many ways and its only through respect we can co-exist. Learn to respect other people’s opinion, definition, judgement - other people’s world. Be kind. Be understanding. Learn to be agreeable once in a while. Understand why and how they act as they are. There will always be a reason for everything.
These are just the few things I’ve learned by experience and believed to be really essential ingredients as we stir the cup. These are the values I try to live up as much as I could.

I am a believer of time is gold and I think it is one of the most precious gifts you can give. When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that can never get back. I think it’s the same in relationships, we have to invest. Invest a great deal of time and energy. We wouldn’t want to be committed to something we don’t (atleast) like, right?

There will always be a time for work and so little time to spend with our family and friends especially for us nocturnals where day and night seemed to be a day(or night? Oh well..)

So what are you waiting for? HAVE A BREAK, HAVE A CHIT-CHAT!

Keep in mind that lasting relationships don’t just happen, they are created. =)

*A Professional Nocturnal is someone who works in graveyard shift